I was disturbed to notice two vastly different attitudes to marriage. One man said,
"Of course the Christian should love his wife. He is supposed to love his neighbour, and since she is his nearest neighbour, she should be his deepest love. And she should also be his dearest friend."
"In respect of travelling abroad, the [...] preacher who has a wife should be as if he has none."
I was not so much disturbed by the first, but disturbed to find a second so different. How can one love his wife as Christ loved the church if he must live as if she does not exist? However, I have found the text that no doubt inspired the above sentiment,
"29 This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, 30 and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, 31 and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the present form of this world is passing away."And so now it remains for me to do the hard work to think about what the apostle Paul is teaching here and why it is so easily ignored.
(1 Corinthians 7:29-31.)
Martin Luther Had a Wife is an easy read and a great introduction to some of the men and women that have changed the way we think about Christianity and Church.