If you've read this post, you will be aware that I don't read theological books very well. I am only marginally better at reading pastoral books and earlier this year I read only the first few chapters of When Sinners Say I Do by Dave Harvey.
Can I say that what I read there was incredibly liberating? If I never read the rest of the book, it was worth whatever we paid for it.
What was so liberating? This was: I married a sinner. Yes, believe it or not, Glen is a sinner. Can you believe it? Or can you believe I never worked that out before?
I knew it theoretically but the practical implications had never dawned on me.
This has totally revolutionised tension and conflict for me. When he says something that hurts, or he is being, well, a little wee bit selfish, I think to myself, 'yep, he's a sinner', smile to myself, pray for him, remind myself that I'm a sinner too and ask God to help us work things out. Before, I just used to feel confused and angry.
I really think I should read the rest of that book.